Welcome to episode 16 on season one of The Exponential You!
Founder and Director of Men’s Resources International Dr. Steven Botkin makes an appearance on The Exponential You. MRI is an organization that is dedicated to helping men all over the world to develop positive masculinity and take responsibility for ending men’s violence.
- Understanding male involvement projects and the reasons for having a men’s program in our communities.
- How the social and psychological dimensions of masculinity have affected us personally and created the conditions for violence and abuse.
- Why a male involvement project is valuable:
- Because men are hurting others. Violence in our relationships, in our families, on our streets, and in our schools continues to be one of the most significant social issues of our time.
- Because men are hurting themselves. We have learned to “suck it up”, “hold it in”, “walk it off”. We believe that admitting our pain to others is an admission of weakness, proof of not being a “real man”, letting others down. Addictive and abusive behaviors are one way we attempt to cope with this hidden pain.
- Because men are divided against each other. From an early age males learn to compete against each other. We are taught to think about ourselves literally as potential soldiers fighting other men to the death in combat. Other men are seen as enemies, dangerous, someone from whom I have to defend myself and my family, someone competing for limited resources. We have used differences of race, nationality, class, and sexual orientation as battlegrounds for our fear of other men.
- Because masculinity is in transition. Our understanding of what it takes to be a successful man is going through big changes. We are being called upon to develop new ways of relating to our emotions, our partners/wives, our children, and our work. This can easily leave us feeling confused, disoriented and overwhelmed.
- Because men want to help. Many men care about violence, oppression, inequality, liberation and healing. Although we may want to take a stand, speak out, make a difference, we often feel uncertain, scared, isolated, silenced and powerless.
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